About Liz

This blog is a place for style inspiration, reviews of clothes and beauty products, Fatshion and Size Acceptance and an exploration of my style, fashion moments and my developing relationship with my body. It took me a long time to reach a place where I accept myself and have confidence in my body. Not least because I was surrounded by women and girls who spoke about their bodies in a negative way, using complaints about their bodies as a type of ‘bonding’ or sharing. What changed? I discovered the fatshion community, gained my self esteem, and learnt that part of the reason I had such low self esteem is being shamed every day via the media, other people’s opinions, and endless diet after endless diet being pushed at you from everywhere. I have always loved clothes. In the past two years, some brilliant retailers have bitten the bullet and begun to retail beautiful and stylish plus size clothing. Although there is a long way to go, my wardrobe is now full of beautiful clothing that I feel reflects part of my personality. This blog is an exploration of the issues surrounding fat and size acceptance, self esteem topics – all with a pinch of fun and style.

Nobody has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. Whether that is because you’re thin, fat or in-between (and most people are in-between), the world is full of variation, which is beautiful. No two people have the same body. Nobody has the same experience in their body, but the way we feel about our bodies is often a very political thing, affected as it is by outside influence. My own journey with my body has had it’s ups and downs. I remember feeling guilty when I was a size 14, as a teenager, and I really do not know why I felt this ‘horror’ at being a size 14, when it is well known that a UK 14-16 are the average size in the UK. Western society has an obsession with what ‘size’ you are and there is a certain feeling of discomfort whenever anyone brings up clothes size. Being a fatshionista is about promoting self esteem, first and foremost. It should not matter what size you are as everyone is different.

 

Being fat should not be seen as a negative thing; on the contrary, I subscribe to Health at Every Size (HAES) which promotes healthy eating and exercise no matter what size you are. I believe that if you feel healthy and you have a healthy relationship with your body, then you are sorted. I’ve been through the dieting thing; I know how it is common belief that you have to punish your body, punish yourself to look a certain way. But no more. I feel that intuitive eating and looking after yourself, rather than starving yourself and forcing yourself to stick to whatever fad diet is not going to make your body feel good. It is also proven to have a detrimental effect on your health if you are constantly dieting. One book that I have found really useful is Dr Linda Bacon’s Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight.

Anyway, as someone with a huge fondness for polka dots, shoes, online shopping, Lush and eyeliner, I invite you to indulge in my passion for fatshion

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